ambivalent thoughts on gender identity and gender politics
I don’t know how much of my gender identity is “just” a rejection of the horrible, violent, antisocial demands of masculinity, which I was always too emotional and physically weak to meet. I believed adults who taught children that hostility and violence is unacceptable, so I was rejected by my peers.
I continue to question my gender because I don’t trust that it’s “real”, not just resentment for my gender role.
ambivalent thoughts on gender identity and gender politics
@Kistaro I think all of us are taught to question ourselves about our genders at the slightest excuse. There's a big difference between "wondering if you should be sure of your reasons to think you are agender" and "having any reason to think you are male", though - coincidence of birth assignment is pretty damn weak evidence, and if that's *all* you have on that side of the scale....
ambivalent thoughts on gender identity and gender politics
@packbat It’s honestly pretty hard for me to comprehend evidence beyond “coincidence of birth assignment” because “gender” feels like a collection of totally unrelated traits that our society is inexplicably convinced are not only intensely correlated, they are intensely correlated with genitals.
ambivalent thoughts on gender identity and gender politics
@Kistaro ...would it be rude of me to say that *that's* evidence? People with genders usually have some sense of some parts of the melange being connected to their gender. Not having that sense is pretty telling evidence that you're right about the agender thing, in my experience.