mental health, a relative improvement
I need to stop trying to control other people’s behavior by trying to hide my needs and interests. I treat myself as though I have an obligation to be invisible and unnoticed so I don’t inadvertently affect people around me and “make” them spend time or energy trying to cater to my “whims”.
It’s hard to change the behavior because my internal value system is screwed up enough that this feels like “one of few things I do right”.