It turns out that I’m afraid of changing my wardrobe and presentation away from “generic Midwest college slacker” because I’m afraid of coming off as fake and this is all I know
“Effeminate, flamingly gay” would be an upgrade, I have no idea where to start, and I’m terrified of coming off as parodic or appropriative or “fake”. And the fact that I’d rather present myself this way feeds into my anxiety about not being “trans enough”.
@Kistaro If it's any consolation, my flare apparently reads as either midwest hipster carnie or flea-market vendor... I'm not sure how this happened...