@sphakos @noelle I'd suggest; people connect to you as Dresses Like X, Talks About A Lots, and Really Loves G. Getting to know Dresses Like Y, Talks About B Lots, and Really Loves H is basically getting to know a new stranger.
So people are either happiest with a compromise (Dresses Like X, But Talks About B Now, and Still Likes G But is Totally Into H) or getting to see that switch. Maybe compromises feel like getting to be along for the ride.