I’ve been realizing today that, if “nobody actually wants to make mistakes” can make me feel terrible on its own, and made me vulnerable to/assume “some angry adult is about to tell me how fucking stupid and worthless I am, possibly at top volume several inches from my face,”
Someone watching me like a hawk, jumping on my mistakes, and their choice of “you need to” phrasing, is *of itself* uncomfortable even if the expected harangue about my stupidity isn’t intended and therefore never arrives.