update, dealing with Discord was so intuitive and user friendly that I successfully finally reset my password, then it told me my email didn't exist, then I made a new account and it couldn't find friends by name, so after saying FUCK YOU loudly and punching into my own hand several times I decided that I'm going to give up on Discord for the evening.
@fairydoctor420 You didn't actually - I got onto Discord because it did voice stuff better than roll20, and then EVERYONE wanted to use Discord in the wake of Twitter becoming increasingly unusable.
@Leucrotta discord fucking sucks and im sorry that i dragged you into it