I don’t like my parents very much, but my mom’s definitely deteriorated this last visit, my dad’s even more stressed and frustrated which isn’t a good thing in/for a caregiver, and it just sucks they’re facing all this. And literally I can’t think of anything else I can do right now. I know it doesn’t make sense to be this upset about people I don’t actually like but.
Like they did terrible controlling, abusive, discouraging, crazy making, neglectful shit to me and they still do, BUT they’re not bad people, just uncomfortable to deal with and innately linked to some of my worst memories. NONE of this deserves “my mind is going and my whole world has been reduced to one floor of a two story house.” None of it deserves “sole caretaker for someone with senile dementia on top of my own issues.”
@obscurestar Thanks.
I moved up here largely because I knew they WERE gonna have health stuff and wanted to be around to help out, but I just didn't anticipate that it'd be less dramatic physical stuff, waaaay more frequent, grinding emotional support. I mean nobody knows what they're walking into when that happens.
I wouldn't wish senile dementia on Musk, Trump or Netanyahu. That's how fucking uncomfy it is to see someone live with it.
@Leucrotta Much sympathy. :/