so I thought of a way to explain gender, unfortunately it's about Jewishness so it won't make as much sense to most people
okay, so my body reflects my ethnicity, very occasionally I get other MENA types thinking I'm one of theirs, sometimes Russians/Ukranians think I'm one of theirs.
Judaism like my physical traits comes with my ethnicity, and obviously I like some stereotypes that go with my ethnicity, but I like stuff from other groups a lot as well. And while it'd be easy to assume Judaism describes all my spirituality, it doesn't; ultimately my spirituality is rooted in where I feel comfortable.