also figured out some small but useful puzzle pieces today;
1) narcissists win b/c they value being the awesomest best person at all times. Whereas a neurotypical person values negotiation and some self-doubt, and an abuse victim has been trained to negotiate and self-doubt.
2) it's not that Christians always think they're doing the right thing, AND they think having professed the right faith saves them. It's that having professed the right faith, they therefore must be espousing right things.