lewd on main sort of
Some really specific words make me all squirmy. And some of them aren't very predictable at all.
If you rate kink on a 1-10 scale, where 1 is het missionary sex position in a bedroom in the dark and 8 gets you stuff that can only be done online; wanting specific weird words is like what, 3-4?
I still feel really shy about it, I think because it's an overlap of various uncomfy anti-intellectual, masculinity and sexual expectations.