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And considering all this, my relationship with the horndog transman last year left me... Uh, really confused.
He had previously identified as a Lesbian, and latched onto me like I was heroin coated candy. And he made me feel really... uncomfortable with his hard binary definitions.
He considered himself a gay transman, and was really Really assertive about the Gay part. Which was okay, until it came to My gender presentation and identity.
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@Motodrachen Aye, it's a tricky predicament. In situations like that it's hard to imagine it working out, if one party is insistant on doing things that the other is obviously uncomfortable with, but I guess that's relationships, they just don't work without mutual respect.
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@Motodrachen Sometimes there's not much one can do. If someone is hurt it's natural to default to being defensive, in that situation they need to first have the realisation and then the will to change.
It's not your responsibility to fix them, but it's damn hard if you care for someone not to, I know that well.
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@Motodrachen There's always hope, but sometimes that's really all you can do. It's sad, but hopefully he will eventually be able to pull himself back and begin his own recovery.
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@Motodrachen
How your partner identifies does not define you, but are, it can cause a lot of friction if one is particularly vocal about a place where things clash. I hope that you'll be able to recover and find yourself properly again.