I have a trouble because all the women I looked up to as a Child were Big, tall, strong, self-assured and took pride in the fact they lived just like the men did.
The problem with That as your model for femininity is that by all major indicators according to that system... I'm already a woman.
Mainstream social signaling is... Optional when you have a Fae spirit in you that just IS an extroverted woman. How do I know?
She can chat up a lesbian at a gamestop and all but get her number.