Contrapoints's FFS video, my enby gender feels, this is gonna be a bigun, input appreciated (1)
First of all wow she’s bad at being inclusive of non-binary AMAB people but we know that
But this has kinda drudged up my own feelings about my face. Part of me is very happy to have “mixed” secondary sex characteristics, but part of me wants some kind of facial surgery (and I’m hesitant to say FFS) so I can live out my dream of being 99% masc, cut my hair super short and still not pass as male
Contrapoints's FFS video, my enby gender feels, this is gonna be a bigun, input appreciated (2)
But what does that look like? Alter my nose, but not my chin or jawline? Is “facial androgyny surgery” a thing? I’m also at somewhat of an advantage because, frankly, I don’t look all that masculine. Hell, I’ve never been able to grow a full beard in my life. I barely have an adam’s apple too.
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All my “instagram people I would show a surgeon” are either hard-butch cis women or extremely ambiguous AFAB enby people, & nearly all of those people have horror stories about being clocked wrong in the woman’s room (including 1 AFAB enby who was clocked as a man and got assaulted, yikes) And…that seems almost self-defeating? I want to look like an AFAB person who looks like a man? Like, what?
Contrapoints's FFS video, my enby gender feels, this is gonna be a bigun, input appreciated (4)
Like, that’s a deliberately unforgiving interpretation of my own gender-feels, but still.
The “I want to look like an AFAB person who looks like a man” thing isn’t even about genitals or anything. I am completely happy with my current breasts-and-a-penis config. It’s just all very weird and I have no idea how to unpack this.
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As an aside, videos like this also help squash those “what if I’m a trans woman in denial” feelings. Like, I clearly have almost nothing in common with her experience of her own gender. I am in no way interested in womanhood, passing as a woman, etc.
re: Contrapoints's FFS video, my enby gender feels, this is gonna be a bigun, input appreciated (5)
@ossifrage I found out Contra is NB exclusionary and just stopped paying any attention to her.
I feel you on the gender stuff, and a lotta my friends are expressing the same thing. They're not Male, Not Female, and really wish that was Enough.
Or that they had an Affirmative name, title, designation, Something.
Non-Binary alone is like... Such a blanket term. Like okay, and then there's the, uh.... Etcetera! Yaaay, we're inclusive!
