Internalized misandry
I'm realizing that I'm deeply insecure about who I am because of trauma growing up, and a really bad view of what it is to be Male.
And this just feeds into my people-pleasing instinct, because I feel like I need to make up for all the other men in the world and the awful stuff they do by being Extra helpful and understanding and soft and diplomatic.
And like, it's tiring me out. I feel compelled to go the extra mile for people no matter what and I need to dial that back.
Internalized misandry
@Motodrachen You and me both though.
I try to limit this myself by reducing the contacts to a mere minimum and it kinda helps.