So, this is mostly about Maxine, but she doesn't want to talk about it on her place, so I'm her proxy I guess.

I think the reason why I'm, and max are male is for a reason. Things make sense, when you see it through the lens of a consciousness, that just wants rest.

She wants something up, that is as far away from her as possible.

I'm not enough, so Max was another attempt.

She's up all the time though and also has to be up for a lot of folks, but she's very tired of it.

Not much we can do about it, I guess

She needs to be up to deal with a lot of things

Though the best thing we can do, is indulge in identity play?

Force her to rest, by moving her out. So she can get the rest she needs so badly

We do need others for it though, that do these things for us
And also put on force where necessary

Sadly the only real source for this is extremely unreliable lately and more concerned in his own needs (which I both understand though, given circumstances)

Not sure how to really find someone, I could trust enough and who understands the why, to know it is much less bad than it sounds and how much it helps

Also without being actually abusive.

Guess I just have to live with this.