a note on an abuse pattern (second person) 

victim: *does anything that makes the abuser feel bad, like characterize their mistreatment accurately*

abuser: *does what they can to immediately make the victim feel bad so the victim stops*

...I'm not going to say this never happens outside abuse relationships, because I'm sure it's a toxic coping mechanism a lot of folks have acquired from one place or another ... but I /will/ say that if you're wondering if someone is willing to treat you with respect, consideration, and regard? Seeing them act this way is a pretty big sign that they aren't.

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re: a note on an abuse pattern (second person) 

@packbat That was like all my relationships with All my bosses, ever.

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