psst...psst, hey, non-binary people...idk if anyone needs to hear this, but...
there are people who will find your non-binaryness attractive. there are people who won't expect you to fit into male/female alignment or anything and will be more than okay with that. there are people who will love you partially FOR being nb, not DESPITE it. there are people will love and be attracted to you AS an nb person. you're lovable and attractive as you are. i promise.
I'm specifically calling out @skolli for being publicly and wantonly adorable.
Girl, you're sqooshing on main.
I'm really digging that I don't Have to be super vocal about gender or sexuality stuff.
It's just easier to Do it, though then I end up posting like this because I still wanna be vocal and positive and self-affirming in a public space.
It's a weird quantum kinda thing, it all works best when you don't look too close.
NB Gender stuff +++, body stuff
Like... I can look at myself in the mirror and see someone who's male-shaped but clearly not Masculine.
Without a ton of the signaling and accents that usually signal that.
Like... I'm not on HRT (yet?) but even Naked, I can look at myself and see someone who isn't Blocky and square and gross. I have some Curves now, my body hair is minimal and cute, and losing weight everywhere else has given me some cute little Tits too.
They didn't go down at All. O_o
So I'm really starting to see the person I always wanted to Be, and it's really affirming knowing that I'm not just permanently stained by a male puberty. It felt like that for a long time.
Why don't any Cishet men know how to compliment a woman?
You want to make them feel desirable, but not Desired.
You want to compliment their Choices, not their Body*
You want to be Kind, Positive, and Observant. This isn't about You, it's about Them, and making them feel more secure and confident in their appearance and to a degree, Body.
And brevity is the soul of Wit. Make it concise, pleasant, and don't overstay your welcome.
*Trans Girls slight exception.
Tell them their boobs are big
MH (~) Gender stuff
I feel like I need to talk to Someone but I'm not certain Who, because I'm not absolutely certain if any of my friends have found themselves in this position, and I'm worried I'm being stupid about Something.
But I'm not sure What I'm being stupid about. And I want a critical look at it, because it's a complicated issue. If I come out and ask about it Directly, I'll just get a ton of Validation and Encouragement, and I need...
I dunno. I need someone who understands it's a Physical VS Spiritual thing, and that some of my core beliefs are in Conflict here.
One of the most insidious lies capitalism tells us is that we must help ourselves before we can effectively help others or else we risk our own survival. It's become pervasive, the core philosophy in basically every Hollywood action/thriller/apocalypse/scifi narrative, and it's also what keeps us apart and diminishes efforts toward mutual aid.
Southern Mass's local machine healer and part time witchdoctor.
Tiny motorcycles, magic potions, machine tools, progressive rock, trance states, and hand sharpened drill bits. Oh, and I read Tarot. Probably 18+ just to be sure.
#nobot