NB/GQ rambling
@gravecat Hello from another NB/GQ friend ^^
Always happy to bounce ideas back and forth if you're looking for someone to chat with about genderstuffs. And there are a lot of us around all over Mastodon. 
@gravecat Totes!!
Here's a starting point then: What are your thoughts on gender presentation vs gender identity vs gender expression?
@gravecat In general, I suppose; as concepts. Or perhaps we should step back a few steps and ask "how would/do you separate the social construct of gender into differing categories?"
@gravecat That's cool, too! I've had the huge advantage of talking to a bunch of gender queer folks over the past few years and that's helped me construct a framework to better discuss this stuff.
If this is something you're interested in talking more about but you don't feel comfortable broadcasting, I'm happy to chat in private, too. ^^
@gravecat How can I help? ^^
@gravecat No worries!
I'm not comfortable with continuing this thread (I don't want to give the impression that I'm pushing you to talk; if it's not something you're up for, that's okay too!) so I'm gonna stop here, but if you want to chat more about it at some point, I'll be around. ^^
@gravecat @mawr That's why I said short answer. And even in same instance it boils down to how much you trust your current and all future administrators, the server code's lack of exploitable vulnerabilities now and in the future, etc etc.
As opposed to overworked underpaid birdsite cs reps, I guess.
@Mycroft Gotcha, and that's totally fair. ^^
I didn't parse that subtext in your initial statement. I'd have agreed with the initial statement if it included "guaranteed confidential" between "direct" and "private messaging."
@Mycroft @gravecat Perhaps not in the same way Twitter does, but direct private messaging is a feature of Mastodon, and it does work fairly well so long as the message doesn't leave your home instance.