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@grime_witch I really don't like those acronyms either. It seems like the majority of the time people fix on them it's to weasel into misgendering.
There are also time (a lot lately while talking about fertility preservation) I've found them coming up a lot when people in the discussion were less uncomfortable with "AFAB/AMAB" than "people with testicles/ovaries."
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@grime_witch For binary people, "trans woman/man" works just as damn well. But I want an NB-friendly way of saying "I was not 'born as male/female' I grew up being *misgendered* as ___."
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Throwing in my enboi 2 cents, but yeah, I agree with this. I like "I grew up being misgendered as a woman" rather than AFAB.
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I think using karyotypes to describe genitalia is difficult and misleading. Very few people get karyotyped at *any* point in their lives, so while for example I can assume based on my phenotype that have an XX arrangement, I wouldn't actually know unless I get that karyotype done.
Phenotype is more readily observable and medically useful. "I'm a person with ovaries" is more useful to a doctor than "XX".
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I think the big thing to move away from is biological essentialism. Linking a patient's gender to genitalia isn't helpful. The "I have ovaries... therefore I'm a woman" thinking is outdated and dangerous.
I hope we can get doctors to list that relevant information as separate from gender. Because a trans man may have ovaries or not, and getting automatically signed up for a pap smear as a trans woman isn't helpful, either.
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@Sparrow @grime_witch YESSS!