Sparrow 🐦 @Sparrow@awoo.space

@linen@witches.town

Yeah. I think meeting new, interesting friends after age 22 or so is a challenge for a lot of us.

I did forget about Meetup.com. That could be a good resource. I remember there being a queer board game night hosted at a local bar in Sacramento, while I was living there. I'm sure they do something like that where I am now, too.

I'm not sober, but it seems especially difficult to meet new queer people when a) you're not looking to hookup, and b) you don't drink.

Morning, pals!

How's everyone doing today?

@linen@witches.town

Yeah, totally. I've definitely suspect of doing that before. But I'm starting to get a clearer idea of what I might want.

Yeah, it definitely takes a lot more work. I have a core group of friends that I okay DnD with, and hopefully I'll meet some more ppl thru the tabletop community in our area. It's tricky finding other queer friends tho bc so many queer events are themed around hooking up/dating.

@linen@witches.town

Kind of both? It's something I want to try at some point in my life, but I'm not set on doing it forever.

I think in all honesty being single for at least another year feels really healthy to me. Maybe after that time I can reassess what relationship styles might work best for me.

And that's a seriously good point! It's been harder to maintain friendships in my late twenties than it used to be- ppl are busy or coupled off. But I have friendships I can strengthen.

@linen@witches.town

I'm not sure. I think if I were doing a "single poly" situation, lived on my own, and really consciously centered myself (not to the extent of being an ass, just prioritizing my needs while minimizing harm to others) I might be able to do it.

That would be another year and a half. Which, honestly, would probably do wonders for me psychologically.

It's hard to tell when it's a good time to start seeking out relationships again after being single.

I've been single for 7 months now and it's been really good for me, esp for overcoming my codependent tendencies.

But I miss cuddles and spending flirty/sexy/romantic time with ppl.

Like I want these things but don't trust myself enough yet to know if I want them for genuine reasons or just because I'm lonely.

I maybe relate a little too much to Princess Carolyn.

@Anke@tootplanet.space

I mean, yeah, basically.

@catoutofbed@octodon.social

Thanks for the reminder! <3

I'm doing okay- drinking lots of water, and just had some food. But you're right, I can absolutely excuse myself and have some quiet time.

We all just took shots

and my family is watching the info channel

heelllllppppppp

@somekindofcrow

That's bizarre, but they are literally all gorgeous. Did you just find my type??

** Sorry, Kiana Nakamura, my bad

My girl Kiona Nakamura is on her third day streak for Jeopardy.

(See: previous post about cute archeologist/roboticist woman with teal hair)

@ruth@witches.town

Right! I'm drinking, knitting, and watching TV. I don't think I could manage a lot more than that.

My dad is very "all or nothing" when it comes to that kind of thing though. He spends the morning/afternoon drinking cup after cup of coffee, and working/cleaning like a maniac; and then spends the night drunk watching TV. I dunno... It's a lifestyle, but it's not mine.

3 drinks in and I'm already getting sleeeeeepy.

I don't know how the rest of my family manages to drink so much every night.

So it turns out the longest plank I can hold is 1.5 minutes. Not great, but it's a good start.

My brother, who's kind of a personal trainer (a bad one) was shocked that I couldn't do a single push-up, even a modified one. I've just never had a strong enough chest/back.