Sparrow 🐦 @Sparrow@awoo.space
Hi I'm Sparrow! Queer kid-adventurer, sci fi/horror geek, wildlife enthusiast, & Witch. Enboi, they/them. T1d. Intersectional feminist. BT/special education aide.
Joined Feb 2017
@mappingcat@mastodon.art
Whoa, Davis people on here? *Waves*
I live in the bay area now, but I graduated from Davis in 2016. Hiya!
Social anxiety -
So I stayed home from the art show because it seemed like it would take too many social spoons.
But then I quickly became guilty and went back to bed to "feel safe".
Fell asleep so I didn't see my roommate's text that she was bringing people over.
Woke up to her and two friends loudly inspecting the apartment. Stayed frozen in bed for twenty minutes until they left.
Now I just feel shakey and spacey. :/
Diabetes, post-apocalyptic fiction
Watching or reading post-apocalyptic fiction is always especially weird for me because I know in those universes, with my chronic illness, I wouldn't survive very long. And if I did I would be a burden to those around me.
Sometimes these shows/books/comics feature a diabetic kid as part of a plot point or tragic backstory for another character, but they rarely stay around long.
So... art show.
Pros: Art, free food, will see friends I don't see often
Cons: Getting dressed, schmoozing, being around people
selfie, eye contact
@mimtschan@witches.town
That is a very, very good look. :3
Ooookay, I've been "waking up" for a full three hours now. I think it's time to finally go for that jog I was threatening.
@benhamill@witches.town
I've only been to a few, honestly. I only know about this one because my roommate did the art installation at the gallery.
Ah, makes sense. I usually get the paperback versions of the comics I like, but I can totally see the fun in getting a new trade every few weeks.
That's good to hear. Be well. <3
@benhamill@witches.town
Ooh, sounds like fun! Are you shopping for anything in particular? Or going to an event?
I'm doing well! Just waking up slowly. I have plans to go jogging and maybe to an art show later, but for now I'm just eating and listening to ASOIAF podcasts. :3
Good morning, friends! It's morning... somewhere?
How's everyone doing today?
Stranger Things, Redhead, crush?
@LottieVixen@dev.glitch.social
Max is so cool!
@catoutofbed@octodon.social
Night night!
Relationships -, venting
@catoutofbed@octodon.social
*Hugs* Totally! It's just frustrating because sometimes I *want* closeness (physical or emotional) but I have to say no because I know I can't handle it in the long term.
I'm really hoping I can practice boundary-setting enough in less, idk, "threatening" situations, until I feel confident in romantic/sexual ones, and can find mutually respectful ways to have those needs met.
Relationships -, venting
@catoutofbed@octodon.social
I think the level of physical intimacy has some, but not all, to do with that feeling of obligation. I've tried being physically intimate in a casual way with folks, and at different levels (sex, makeouts, cuddling) and unless I have a long, established history of mutual communication and respected boundaries, high physical attraction, and a long non-physical lead up during which I can make sure my feelings are consistent, it doesn't work.
Relationships -, venting
@catoutofbed@octodon.social
*Hugs accepted* thank you!
I do think the boundary can be a little arbitrary, though I'm currently exploring the meaning for myself, and why I can say "no" to friends pretty easily and not partners.
I think there's something I have about feeling "obligated" to someone I'm dating in a committed relationship that's more boundary-confusing than with friends.
Relationships -, venting
Tfw the entire concept of relationships sounds exhausting and unbearable because 7 times out of 10 I let people walk all over my boundaries (or don't set them to begin with).
My most lasting friendships are with people who make their own boundaries clear, and are explicitly supportive of mine.
I know I can get better at establishing/maintaining boundaries, as well as avoiding people who routinely challenge or disrespect mine.
But the - association is still strong.
@Ulfra_Wolfe@witches.town
I've also gotten the "if you loved me you'd do (thing that violates my boundaries)", and when I get upset, "I'm just kidding lol, did you really think I was serious? You need to chill."
Like, no, please don't joke about my triggers. This person knew damn well I had trouble maintaining boundaries with people I loved. Then they would joke, and think that wasn't somehow manipulative.
@Ulfra_Wolfe@witches.town
Yuppp. Trust me, I know. *Sigh*
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@Ulfra_Wolfe@witches.town
I've gotten the "well YOUR boundaries are against MY boundaries" bit before. *Shakes head*
Hi I'm Sparrow! Queer kid-adventurer, sci fi/horror geek, wildlife enthusiast, & Witch. Enboi, they/them. T1d. Intersectional feminist. BT/special education aide.
Joined Feb 2017
