gender, kin, neurodivergence, all at once 

So I think I really like the term buckgender to describe my personal experience with gender. It affirms my non-binaryness, my kinness, and my neurodivergence all at once.

To me, my gender is defined as an experience of a non-binary light masculinity. But a kind of gender that feels like it's defined from a wholly non-human perspective. Analogous to maleness but not male.

re: gender, kin, neurodivergence, all at once 

In the past I tried terms like demiboy to put a word to my experience, but it's not quite right.

I discovered being therian, I realised how much my autism affects my understanding of gender, as well as my general feeling of being non-human.

The thing about being autistic is, social stuff doesn't come as naturally to us as it does for allistic people. We analyse social constructs with our own templates. We find ways to look at the world through our own autistic perspective.

It's honestly why I never felt human.

re: gender, kin, neurodivergence, all at once 

Buckgender combines every part of my identity and puts it in a greater whole. Bigger than the sum of its parts. I'm a deer, I'm a kangaroo, I'm non-binary. My gender is being a buck!

And I'm really happy with that term!

re: gender, kin, neurodivergence, all at once 

@JoeyBuckaroo There's a reason I summarize my gender as "terrifying" wolfwoman, personally. <3 I'm glad you've found a term that works to encapsulate everything at once too!

re: gender, kin, neurodivergence, all at once 

@JoeyBuckaroo *"terrifying wolfwoman" rather, but you get what I mean

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