On Abuse (1)
Abuse is so prevalent that many people don't even realize what abuse they're putting up with. If you grow up around abusers and manipulators, you learn how to survive among abusers and manipulators and can take their actions as normal
And it's not like people can't abuse, feel bad for it, and want to change. But serial abusers make a pattern for it.
On Abuse (2)
However, manipulative abusers will act apologetic when pushed into a corner only, and then just get more subtle or find different targets that others don't care about.
If someone abuses others that they don't have to treat well, and treat people differently based on what they can get away with (example: shoving around someone they know will put up with it), that's a really big red flag.
On Abuse (3)
@Ulfra_Wolfe Uff. I get yelled at /every time/ I even suggest this. >_< How DARE I not forgive everybody who asks for it! That makes ME the bad guy! EVERYBODY deserves to be forgiven if they decide they've Redeemed Themselves!
uuuuuugh <3
On Abuse (3)
The big thing however: Even if someone IS willing to change their behavior -- there is never ANY reason to insist that you should forgive them for the abuse they inflicted upon you. Sure, they might be changed and apologetic, but they still hurt you. And quite frankly, if they hurt you for long enough with unchecked behaviors, that might have corrupted the way you two interact because it's just become ingrained.
Abuse is just awful & insidious.