Nettle Briar @Ulfra_Wolfe@awoo.space
Nettle -- a punk rock sheep. Ulfra - big wolf mama tf witch. Vedia -- Witch girl with magic sword. Wolf & sheep kin. Hazel and Willow are my sisters. Refugee from witches.town. An open book -- talk to me and I'll try to talk back as much as I can!
Joined Apr 2017
I like it when I introduce people together and then they get along really well. <3
On Abuse (3)
The big thing however: Even if someone IS willing to change their behavior -- there is never ANY reason to insist that you should forgive them for the abuse they inflicted upon you. Sure, they might be changed and apologetic, but they still hurt you. And quite frankly, if they hurt you for long enough with unchecked behaviors, that might have corrupted the way you two interact because it's just become ingrained.
Abuse is just awful & insidious.
On Abuse (2)
However, manipulative abusers will act apologetic when pushed into a corner only, and then just get more subtle or find different targets that others don't care about.
If someone abuses others that they don't have to treat well, and treat people differently based on what they can get away with (example: shoving around someone they know will put up with it), that's a really big red flag.
On Abuse (1)
Abuse is so prevalent that many people don't even realize what abuse they're putting up with. If you grow up around abusers and manipulators, you learn how to survive among abusers and manipulators and can take their actions as normal
And it's not like people can't abuse, feel bad for it, and want to change. But serial abusers make a pattern for it.
Nettle Briar
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my fursona is a robot squirrelbun
Nettle Briar
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maple classic™ 
THE SPACE ADVENTURES OF GENERAL MIBI IS NOW ON BANDCAMP
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PLEASE GIVE IT A LISTEN I HOPE YOU'LL LIKE IT AS MUCH AS I DO https://computerfairi.es/media/L2YuH_IwgDzIPdzmTCw
I love you all <3
Herb for the herd! :D
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@Ulfra_Wolfe *bleats loudly and munches on cosmic herb*
@ladywight AWOOOOOOOOOOOO
BA-A-A-A-A-A!
Combat unfairness
I really do like teaching people new things!
I am scum!
I belong nowhere in average society. I go where I can be free to be me, no matter what anyone thinks! I will not tolerate unfairness as much as I am able. I am not perfect, but I will keep trying!
I am SCUM!
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That said, in general, your admin will only look over the toots you've marked Private if they have reason to believe harassment or illicit dealings are going on. Make sure you trust your admin to act like this, and if you don't, it might be time to look for another instance.
As a general rule, if an application you're using isn't peer-to-peer and relies on an intermediary like a server, the information you're sending isn't secure unless you take extra steps outside the application to secure it.
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Admins don't want to read your private toots, but they have to be able to because otherwise private toots allow some users to secretly harass others or to conduct illegal dealings without the admin's knowledge, and under many laws the admin will be responsible for enabling the harassment or illegal behavior even if they didn't know it was happening.
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I've updated my brief introduction to Mastodon with a new heading: "How private is "Private"?": https://gist.github.com/joyeusenoelle/74f6e6c0f349651349a0df9ae4582969#how-private-is-private
I've reprinted it here because it should be read.
I cannot stress this enough: Private toots are not encrypted or secure.
The admin of your server can read any toot posted on their server, as well as any toot sent to a user on their server. This is a necessary security precaution.
Nettle Briar
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Nettle -- a punk rock sheep. Ulfra - big wolf mama tf witch. Vedia -- Witch girl with magic sword. Wolf & sheep kin. Hazel and Willow are my sisters. Refugee from witches.town. An open book -- talk to me and I'll try to talk back as much as I can!
Joined Apr 2017
