I've certainly fallen down on my responses to things, gone further than I should have with my anger. But I think it's vitally important to treat people with a basic level of respect and dignity. If I don't feel I can do that, I simply don't engage if I can help it.
@jakebe Thank you for saying this. All of this.
But I can't work with folks who see rage as the only response to any infraction, no matter what it is or who it's from. Context matters. Intent matters. Just because some use that as cover to act in bad faith doesn't mean it's not true.