I remember talking to a friend on the phone about accents, and he offered to teach me how to “talk like a Black man”. I showed him a picture of my RL self after that convo, and he was abashed.
He wasn’t from the US, so I’m not sure he was aware of the effect that would have. 1/
I’ve also heard:
“You’re one of the good ones.”
“I don’t think of you as Black.”
I’ve been called a “niglet” “affectionately”.
The worst, I think, is being approached by several friends and acquaintances asking me “you’re my one Black friend” questions after George Floyd. 2/