trans, hypocrisy
@kiilas@a.weirder.earth When I transitioned in Texas in 2000, the local gay community used "they" to other and out trans people that they didn't think passed. That left a pretty deep emotional scar, and it took me a long time to become comfortable with singular-they because it was used as a weapon against me. I suspect that person is struggling to reconcile the cognitive dissonance of being asked to use a word that some have been trained to think of as an insult.
trans, hypocrisy
@kiilas@a.weirder.earth Your identity is your own. Your words to describe yourself are your choice. I recognize and affirm your right to be who and what you want to be in the world. Some people may struggle with that for reasons which aren't immediately apparent. We all come into the world with our own contexts and our own histories. I'm sorry someone said that to you, and I hope whomever it is comes to peace with what happened to them soon.