Quasi-Compulsory Sexuality in Communities [6] (Addendum)
@mawr So, to be sure: I've been part of that sequence of events, and I'm not going to sit here and claim I haven't. I question whether it's common enough to justify being a "script" and on what scale and scope it has to happen for it to it to become such. I'm assuming you mean "over the course of a night in a social space not originally explicitly earmarked as sex-inclusive."
Quasi-Compulsory Sexuality in Communities [6] (Addendum)
@mawr Again, I can only speak to my lived experience, but so far as I know, that sequence has been the vast minority of social interactions. It's happened maybe half a dozen times in the twenty or so years I've really been out and active, compared against the hundreds of snuggles that ended with nothing more and no expectations of further. To call it a script, to me, vastly overplays its commonness and inevitability.
Quasi-Compulsory Sexuality in Communities [6] (Addendum)
@mawr I want to fully affirm that your feelings are valid. Whatever you feel, you feel. More than anything, I want to make sure you feel like you're being heard and respected.
At the same time, I admit I'm struggling because I don't see the same pattern you do, or I'm not seeing it as a pattern in the same way. I think I see what you're describing, but to me it's the rare exception, not the rule.