I'm judging a friend pretty heavily today. Not a close friend, but a long-term one.

They were sent out here from the East Coast in January for work. It was originally going to be for like 2 weeks, but they really liked it, so they opted to stay through the ski season... without consulting their boyfriend first.

They started looking at job opportunities out here and more than once brought up moving out here.

I asked how their boyfriend felt about this.

"Oh, he wouldn't move. Just me"

He's got a week left. He's got 2 job offers that would be substantial pay increases - about 10% more than I make.

He hasn't told his boyfriend.

Like, my friend is not the brightest, but he normally puts more thought into this kind of thing.

I flat out said today I have no advice on how to communicate it.

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