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maybe... I should learn better coping strategies than figuring out which person closest to me is around and messaging them with my problems.
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@starkatt Disagree
It's okay to be sad, its okay to tell your friends that you're sad
It's also okay to tell your friends en masse that you're trying not to rely on the positive feedback that comes from the attention that follows telling your friends that you're sad.
Your feelings are valid and your desires are valid. The path away from codependency is hard, and your attentiveness to it is h*ckin' awesome and should be recognized.
You are okay. ♥️
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@mawr :nod: I do think that asking folks for help is an impulse that's often correct and useful.
What I worry about doing is _only_ going to people when I'm sad, and that going "weh I feel shitty" is a default reaction even when there's nothing that talking to people is likely to help address.
I guess, I don't actually do too much of those, actually.
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oh wait, joke's on me, that last toot was just another version of doing that.