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@TipsyTentacle@witches.town Elder Scrolls deities would make a pretty cool naming scheme :)

@LexYeen Okay I super want to hear about the second thing.

@Firstaide ...okay this is really dang relatable. Woah.

LB that's where I'll be too.

When I start to go from "ahhhh thank you for being louder than the stuff in my brain" to "okay this actually is pretty dang loud, hrm", that's a good sign that it's working.

@nire@witches.town when I think to do it at all I'm pretty okay at finding stuff that works.

One of the most effective things I can do when having a bad night is to put on my headphones and turn the music *really* loud. It helps drive other stuff out of my brain.

It's a really good tool and I'm glad I have it. Music is important and good.

ee just caught myself in the mirror and had one of those "hey, it's a girl!" moments. Even six years in that's still really nice.

@nire@witches.town Yeah, no worries, I wasn't trying to ask you for feedback on this as much as admitting the possibility to myself, somewhere durable?

@nire@witches.town (this toot doesn't require a response)

@nire@witches.town Damn. I hope I'm not in that territory with my folks :/

...the fact that I can't for sure say I'm not is kind of bad.

(this test isn't mine. It was relayed to me by a partner, after I implicitly asked to be comforted at a really inopportune time)

Actionably useful test: if you say something and the only possible responses are to comfort you or sound like a gigantic asshole, you're asking for emotional labor.

It's something I for one need to be a lot more conscious of, especially with the people closest to me.

(this is not a subtoot of anyone or anything, promise)

@Ratttz I think lack of reasonable proportionality is one of the primary reasons why people don't use the extant court system to settle disputes.

@Ratttz tbh I think it's kind of hard to imagine any justice system ("system" in the very loose sense) that isn't going to be a little haphazard, ultimately. Legalism is an attempt to enforce uniformity, but we know that this means a neglect of context and proportionality.

@aprrrl@witches.town Without knowing more information, it sounds like a good thing you were there. Standing up is hella hard and you have my respect for it.

:hugs:

@Ratttz I have questions about coordination and justification of use of force under anarchism, but that's a separate topic :)

I'm definitely a fan of community restorative justice as an ideal, but I have the concern that social groups don't always have the motivation to engage necessary for an actual justice process.