abdl, violence, mh (------) 

love too see people talk about wanting to shoot up a room of people like me at a furry convention

love too also see the same hand wringing over and over about why my existence is actually harmful and also the people who condemn the threat, but also "fundamentally disagree with my existence" in the same breath

i just want to feel cute, and i want to identify with a self image that i feel happy as. why do people have to confuse that with so much horrible stuff? why do people have to always confuse us with the kinds of people we literally hate the most, and use that as justification to harm and dehumanize us?

i'm just so tired

re: abdl, mh (------) 

this is the reason so many of us are hidden, and the reason that i feel like i'll never truly be welcome in spaces other kink is accepted

even in highly inclusive spaces, this just keeps happening

sometimes i feel like we're collectively the canary in the coal mine for kink positivity, but things like this just make me feel like we're just a part of a different domain entirely--where the inclusive spaces around us are safe places to theorycraft justifications for excluding us based on continuously-unchallenged misconceptions about why wearing diapers, or why wanting to feel little makes you the scum of the earth

mh (-) 

it's really hard to always have to justify my existence to people who are pushing to not have to justify their existence to others as well

nothing says "your acceptance is a different problem than ours" quite like that does

re: mh (-) 

what's worse is that i believe them sometimes

re: mh (-) 

most of these people are lefty, and want inclusive spaces for everyone--just, we don't qualify

i have pretty fun anxiety, so it's Actually Quite Hard being my own advocate in what seems like a vacuum for support otherwise

re: mh (-) 

it really feels like just being allowed to exist is a lot to ask some days

and when agreed on "inclusive spaces for marginalized people" are filled with people who have problems with my inclusion, i don't really want to argue

if someone who is marginalized tells me i don't belong, i listen to them. it's not the same as when a hateful bigot does it

re: mh (-) 

but also, gosh, i really do wish more spaces where i am allowed existed

or that there was a way to normalize just being Around in more places without everyone needing to have Opinions about if that should be allowed because of the misinformation spread by people who have louder voices than we do

misinformation started by people who don't want us to exist for hateful reasons who are good at introducing us as a Concept Of Contempt to people who have never heard of us by reframing their hatred as A Concern they don't actually subscribe to

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re: mh (-) 

i know the source of the concerns isn't real

but when cool people who show solidarity with anyone who isn't hateful or harmful parrots it, it can really sow seeds of doubt

it can really make it feel like they have a point, and that it's okay if inclusivity doesn't extend to people like me

because my existence must be harmful, and exclusion is then a justified penance

it really hurts

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