words/phrasrs I've been using lately to replace "stupid" "dumb" etc:
-unexpected
-silly
-a strange choice
-unreasonable
-a poor decision
-a mistake
-not what i wanted
-wrong
instead of "don't be stupid" I've been trying the more positive "try to make good decisions"
I'm open to feedback/other ideas!
mention of ablism slurs
@vahnj yeah, mental health slurs are another category I'm working on examining in my own usage. so far it's been a harder habit for me to break than the intelligence-based ones, but I'm inching my way there ;_;