radfems; friendly fire; sorry-not-sorry
But OTOH, radfems really don't take well to me pointing out that "#NotAllMen" really fucks over people on the enby spectrum, by denying men are capable of feminine (or even *responsible* behavior), and forbidding us to talk openly about the exceptions.
I can't count the number of "not-trans-enough" friends who have been terrified back into hiding by this kind of heartless, dogmatic thought-terminating cliche bullshit.
#NotAllMen is now grounds for block.
radfems; friendly fire; sorry-not-sorry
Clarification:
*Defending* #NotAllMen is not grounds for blockade.
Defending #NotAllMen is grounds for me cruelly mocking the irony of your defense with the hashtag #NotAllNotAllMen.
If I don't get to say, "No, seriously, my experiences have been NOTHING like what you describe, and there do seem to be a lot of these cases, whether you like it or not," then neither do you.
radfems; friendly fire; sorry-not-sorry
I mean, FFS, the very first day I saw that tag in use -- despite being in total sympathy with people trying to point out the huge, virulent flaws in modern masculinity -- I thought, "Wow, this is sure gonna get misused."
But I didn't hate it, nor you for spreading that kind of tactic, until I saw it mutate into #NotAllVegans, just to shut down some poor kid trying to fight stereotypes of _their_ group.
No. Fuck that. Bad meme. No more of this bullshit.
radfems; friendly fire; sorry-not-sorry
I mean, fight the good fight, do what you can against the patriarchy, but please don't summon demons, goetic nor memetic, to do your dirty work for you.
The whole thing struck me as a scurrilous, "do you still beat your wife" kind of strategy from day one, a nasty and cynical logical trap that punishes people just for joining the discourse -- a discourse ABOUT THEM, so what the fuck, people?!
I should've been louder about this sooner and I'm very sorry.
radfems; friendly fire; sorry-not-sorry
And if you're one of those baby activists who can't yet even separate criticism of your tactics from criticism of your cause... my desire to talk this out with you is even LOWER than zero.
I'm fucking tired of the purism and self-justifying strategies of "my team," as if just pursuing the "right" ideology relentlessly and exclusively were somehow equivalent to virtue. Ask any Taoist: it ain't.
Granted, I'm biased, a fence-straddlin little chimera here...