zebra-handling; 12Fold; legend of five rings(?!?)
And to be fair, I DO realize this is not always an achievable, or even approachable standard for all people. It's... not a small feat to step up to a growling kitty the size of a Buick, jingle a collar at him, and say, "Is it time for me to fetch the superglue?" or something. Paradoxically, blatantly fake condescension GOOD, real(/perceived) condescension BAD, and... that is not an easy judgement call to make, especially because rawr. =n_n;;;=