severe executive function(?) difficulties
we're only barely able to keep on top of laundry enough to have something to wear each day
many days we can't even manage to take a proper shower
vacuuming is a once in a blue moon thing
we can't even use non-paper dishes because they'll end up in the sink for ages and then get thrown out when they go moldy because mysophobia means that moldy things, even after being cleaned of mold, aren't usable to us
we just
can't keep on like this
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severe executive function(?) difficulties
i know you worry about losing the job and understand that fear but you can't keep pushign yourselves like this. you really need to ask for a shortened schedule before you burn out completely -s4
severe executive function(?) difficulties
we're extremely worried about you b/c it feels like you're pushing yourself to the breaking point for fear of changing anything or not doing "enough"
severe executive function(?) difficulties
@nautilee @Felthry I'm also extremely worried. You don't sound overwhelmed to me, you sound burned out but not aware of it.
I'm glad you're trying to hire people to handle some chores. I believe you do need time to yourself, and time to do nourishing things, and the sooner the better.
Like, I believe if you have sick time, or vacation time, you should take it *now*.
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@Austin_Dern @nautilee unfortunately we are in the negative on vacation time after taking a week off like two months ago for this exact problem, which didn't seem to help any
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@Felthry @nautilee I'm afraid I don't understand 'negative' here; do you mean you had (say) three vacation days and used five, or do you mean the boss has warned they'll give no more time off for the near future?
I would think seriously about taking even unpaid time off now, though, because what you describe seems to me unsustainable.
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@Austin_Dern @nautilee i don't know if unpaid time off is a thing we can do
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@Austin_Dern @nautilee the problem is that for us, *being present at work and expected to do work* is too much pressure, at least for that length of time
i don't know if anything short of a shorter work week would help
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@Felthry @nautilee OK. And I don't mean to order you around. That you've been exhausted so long a time, with no hints of relief, seems critical to me. I *think* you need time off now, and pressure off you at work. It may be useful to check the written policies to see what you can do to get relief.