@vyruem f’rex recently I realized that a huge trigger for me was artifactual; I mess something up because I haven’t been told how to do it (easy misunderstanding from people who assume someone else told me or have been doing it long enough to be an assumption), and get mocked or yelled at as result (my nitpicky coworker is merely nitpicky). A few really extreme or intentional incidents meant every time that happened as a kid became this thing I thought was a trap, a bad trigger.

@Leucrotta I think I can relate to that? My spouse often points-out when I hesitate and look at her before doing something, because I'm afraid of not doing it the right way and I'm awaiting direction that will usually never come. I know particularly that feeling of being mocked for doing something wrong when I had no idea in the first place is a really emotionally ass-lancing experience.