Part of what came out of yesterday's realizations about curiosity vs goal based dopamine release;
dopamine or not, I think it'd be emotionally useful for me to see MORE things as goals even if their significance gets completely wiped out immediately in a larger hostile world. Example; yesterday I drove south, did an in person interview, drove back and in the middle of my job hunt found out I didn't get the job.
If I can phrase this as having accomplished a necessary step in this process I hate, one that wouldn't have had ANY chance of working out if I hadn't sunk effort into it, that makes it feel a lot better than just having it be part of an ongoing lifetime of never being good enough.
Part of what came out of yesterday's realizations about curiosity vs goal based dopamine release;
@Leucrotta that's a good way to think about it and matches what a therapist pointed out about me and romantic relationships
I can't say I've perfectly learned the lesson
Part of what came out of yesterday's realizations about curiosity vs goal based dopamine release;
@Leucrotta wait a sec that also explains rejection sensitivity in ADHD so much
if the little steps you're doing fail to stick in your mind as little steps of progress, it becomes all about your confidence if people like you
Part of what came out of yesterday's realizations about curiosity vs goal based dopamine release;
@chimerror @Leucrotta I can definitely see that association. It doesn't seem unrelated to self-confidence. Like, when we aren't crediting ourselves for what worth lay in our efforts, we are only absorbing and internalizing the negatives in a way that prohibits us from getting that confidence -from- ourselves?
Part of what came out of yesterday's realizations about curiosity vs goal based dopamine release;
@chimerror @Leucrotta so in that sense, we can only seem to get that confidence from external sources and the pressure/stress of that is pretty great
Part of what came out of yesterday's realizations about curiosity vs goal based dopamine release;
@Oneironott @Leucrotta yep, that makes sense to me
I wish this type of thinking and talking about it was more common and hopefully my own niblings who will also likely have adhd will get some good guidance
Part of what came out of yesterday's realizations about curiosity vs goal based dopamine release;
@chimerror @Leucrotta it's something that really makes me double-shocked because then I remember all of this is ~quite~ relatively new in the grand scheme of humanity. I feel like people are just kinda starting to figure out how and in what ways our brain, and mental health, matter. Absolutely wild time to be alive n.n'
Part of what came out of yesterday's realizations about curiosity vs goal based dopamine release;
@chimerror @Leucrotta Do y'all mind if I just copy/archive bits of these discussions for the future? It's been super useful n.n
Part of what came out of yesterday's realizations about curiosity vs goal based dopamine release;
@Oneironott @Leucrotta go for it
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@chimerror @Oneironott seconded, anything that might help someone else/alternatively might generate ideas that come back and help me is great imho
