Friendship question 

I have a friend I've known for about 13 years. She's very hit or miss as a friend; I won't hear from her from six months, but she'll be there for me in an emotional crisis.

When we're hanging out she's attentive and kind to me, but then I won't hear from her for weeks. She isn't reliable and it's becoming a problem. I want to stay friends, but I can't help but feel like I put a lot more energy into this friendship than I get back from it.

What would you recommend I do?

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Friendship question 

@fireh9lly

! I didn't realize there was a word for that kind of friendship, but that makes a lot of sense.

Nah, it doesn't feel targeted or mean. Just mildly irritating. But yeah, lowering my expectations might be the best way to go about things.

Thanks!

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