What's a word for something that's kinda like a kink, in that it's deeply subconscious and gratifying, but not about sexuality or attraction? Like a deep, perhaps "taboo" desire, that isn't necessarily sexual in nature?
@Sparrow maybe fetish?
@confusedcharlot Hm, I wouldn't necessarily think so. I think a fetish is when a high degree of sexual desire is linked to a particular object or part of the body. This isn't really about a concrete object, so much as an abstract idea.
@Sparrow -philia as a suffix kinda works but ppl don't use it alone
@Sparrow i mean aristotle did, but he was greek
@confusedcharlot yeah. I think "non sexual fetish" or "non sexual kink" is probably the best. Like dictionary-definition wise, yeah, those are supposed to be sexual things. But language evolves and I've definitely heard people use those words casually to refer to non sexual fixations or fantasies, too.
@confusedcharlot anyway mine sounds like it could be super sexual for someone else, but for me it's more about being passive and observing what someone else would do with my body from a "morbid curiosity" standpoint.
@confusedcharlot though I'm sure some part of it also comes from the thrill of "there are things I'd want to do but I'm too scared to actually do, so imagining someone else in charge shifts the responsibility off me while still letting me do the thing I want to do"
@confusedcharlot (re: last post: oops I stared too long into the void & the void stared back)
@Sparrow hmm I know a bunch of people who differentiate between sexual feelings and kinky feelings, they're not the same for them and often don't happen in the same situations or even with the same people.
My example
My example goes back to childhood, when I first read Animorphs and thought "it would be really interesting to be controlled by a yerk, and just observe someone else control my body. See what they do with it."