One of the things I've come to realize as I get older and wiser is that literally ANY belief or morality system can be used as a cudgel to beat people over the head. It's not a flaw in that belief system, it's just human nature.
It still sucks to see 'your side' being awful.
@jakebe Thank you for saying this. All of this.
And it's really wild to me that asking people to consider the effect their actions take on other people -- especially within social justice -- often gets shot down as 'silencing' or 'tone policing'.
But what's the point of any of this if not to treat people better?