Reminder:
You are a work in progress. It's okay, even encouraged, to develop in new directions as you grow as a person. Your identity doesn't have to be static, and making a change doesn't have to mean committing to it forever. Move in the direction that feels most right to you right now :)
(I had to remind myself of this the other day, as another round of nonbinary feels hit.)
Actually, I'm gonna take this father:
"Identity", in the deepest sense, is the *process* of how you become the most yourself, not just what you happen to be at any intermediate step.
@starkatt I've been thinking a lot about this recently. I had an open conversation about it on my private Twitter on Monday: https://twitter.com/SoftMawr/status/861779321685393408
It started with "Open question to queer folks: is it normal for us to struggle with a sense of identity? Is it just 'cause we're so outside of the norm?"
The answers I received in response could largely be summarized as "the problem isn't with us, but rather society's attachment to the fallacy of normal."
@starkatt It's in our culture to apply a great deal of pressure to things that do not fit within our expectations. As a result, when you identify as something outside of the cultural norm, that pressure is applied directly and can manifest in the form of identity crisis.
...I've kind of been stuck in a loop of identity crisis for the past 6 months. ^^;