Reminder:
You are a work in progress. It's okay, even encouraged, to develop in new directions as you grow as a person. Your identity doesn't have to be static, and making a change doesn't have to mean committing to it forever. Move in the direction that feels most right to you right now :)
(I had to remind myself of this the other day, as another round of nonbinary feels hit.)
There's actually an essay I've been meaning to write about Identity as Process. I've made one attempt at it that was too scattered to publish -- maybe I should try again?
@starkatt I think this is an apt phrasing, yes. Identity is a process. Or, as R. Buckminster Fuller put it, "I seem to be a verb." =n.n=
@starkatt I've been thinking a lot about this recently. I had an open conversation about it on my private Twitter on Monday: https://twitter.com/SoftMawr/status/861779321685393408
It started with "Open question to queer folks: is it normal for us to struggle with a sense of identity? Is it just 'cause we're so outside of the norm?"
The answers I received in response could largely be summarized as "the problem isn't with us, but rather society's attachment to the fallacy of normal."
@starkatt It's in our culture to apply a great deal of pressure to things that do not fit within our expectations. As a result, when you identify as something outside of the cultural norm, that pressure is applied directly and can manifest in the form of identity crisis.
...I've kind of been stuck in a loop of identity crisis for the past 6 months. ^^;
Actually, I'm gonna take this father:
"Identity", in the deepest sense, is the *process* of how you become the most yourself, not just what you happen to be at any intermediate step.