abdl, violence, mh (------)
love too see people talk about wanting to shoot up a room of people like me at a furry convention
love too also see the same hand wringing over and over about why my existence is actually harmful and also the people who condemn the threat, but also "fundamentally disagree with my existence" in the same breath
i just want to feel cute, and i want to identify with a self image that i feel happy as. why do people have to confuse that with so much horrible stuff? why do people have to always confuse us with the kinds of people we literally hate the most, and use that as justification to harm and dehumanize us?
i'm just so tired
re: abdl, mh (------)
this is the reason so many of us are hidden, and the reason that i feel like i'll never truly be welcome in spaces other kink is accepted
even in highly inclusive spaces, this just keeps happening
sometimes i feel like we're collectively the canary in the coal mine for kink positivity, but things like this just make me feel like we're just a part of a different domain entirely--where the inclusive spaces around us are safe places to theorycraft justifications for excluding us based on continuously-unchallenged misconceptions about why wearing diapers, or why wanting to feel little makes you the scum of the earth
mh (-)
it's really hard to always have to justify my existence to people who are pushing to not have to justify their existence to others as well
nothing says "your acceptance is a different problem than ours" quite like that does
re: mh (-)
what's worse is that i believe them sometimes
re: mh (-)
it really feels like just being allowed to exist is a lot to ask some days
and when agreed on "inclusive spaces for marginalized people" are filled with people who have problems with my inclusion, i don't really want to argue
if someone who is marginalized tells me i don't belong, i listen to them. it's not the same as when a hateful bigot does it
re: mh (-)
but also, gosh, i really do wish more spaces where i am allowed existed
or that there was a way to normalize just being Around in more places without everyone needing to have Opinions about if that should be allowed because of the misinformation spread by people who have louder voices than we do
misinformation started by people who don't want us to exist for hateful reasons who are good at introducing us as a Concept Of Contempt to people who have never heard of us by reframing their hatred as A Concern they don't actually subscribe to
re: mh (-)
i know the source of the concerns isn't real
but when cool people who show solidarity with anyone who isn't hateful or harmful parrots it, it can really sow seeds of doubt
it can really make it feel like they have a point, and that it's okay if inclusivity doesn't extend to people like me
because my existence must be harmful, and exclusion is then a justified penance
it really hurts
re: mh (-)
most of these people are lefty, and want inclusive spaces for everyone--just, we don't qualify
i have pretty fun anxiety, so it's Actually Quite Hard being my own advocate in what seems like a vacuum for support otherwise