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The next person who I hear tell someone else "your feelings are valid" or some other wishy-washy line of buzzwords instead of actually engaging a friend's feelings in a non-HR capacity is going to end up pondering the positive, empathetic peer-choice-orientation goal of a zebra-hoof-peer-face-encounter situation. :)
Believe it or not, this is not a subtoot. Just a frustration that came up in an outside conversation. I'm sure it's not the last you'll hear from me about it.
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@zebratron2084 When you want to validate the emotional content of a message without validating the factual claims being presented in the message, how would you suggest people proceed? I never want to suggest that people don't know what they're feeling, or that feelings themselves are bad or wrong, but a lot of times people -- myself included -- get their emotions knotted around things that aren't true, or at least are open to multiple framings.
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@literorrery We'll talk. This is a HUGE issue and I don't think I can disentangle it for you simply in one sitting. The best I can give you right now is, that approach feels INCREDIBLY distancing and detached to me. You've heard me describe it before as "being put on a dais for inspection." It can be infuriating to feel... managed.
Please, please, please don't take that as an affront. I'm already half ready to bolt for the couch just by the mere fact of HAVING this discussion.😭
