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Apologies to anyone who saw my rant earlier.
I stand by what I said in it. There have been some tectonic changes in my self-identification over the last year, and the main thing keeping me from talking about them is social fear. And I am intensely frustrated at certain common behaviors in trans activist circles right now.
But you're right, there's no reason to make waves over it, and I'm too freshly agitated over Birdsite Issues for my tone to be trustworthy here.
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(And if you tell me I'm not in a het relationship, I WILL ACTUALLY FIGHT YOU. :) But I don't suspect I'll get a lot of resistance on that one, and I realize the Coyote Gayness that @acetone_kitten smeared all over me will never, ever go away. :) )
(Don't worry about it too much. You lot frustrate and annoy me like siblings. The alt-right just makes me want to set them on fire. There is zero defection risk and absolutely nothing they can ever offer me.)
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@zebratron2084 “coyote gayness”?
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@Leucrotta Rik was my first same-sex relationship. (First and only, but mostly because I've only ever had long-term partners. n.n; ) And, well, coyote, because coyote, though I don't know if they're a cat or something these days. :)
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@Leucrotta And of course, Rik is enby, but I'm not sure to what extent these things are considered retroactive. :)
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@zebratron2084 That last bit, about tagging relationships, is why I'm kinda happy to see the recently profligate use of 'gay' as a very broad identity/relationship marker (even if I pout a bit about there remaining no good word for m/m relationships)
As someone put it the other day, not gay as in "homosexual" but gay as in "we certainly can't call this straight" ;)
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Just... please take me seriously, okay? The sense of dismissiveness and "oh, we know what you are, Kin" that I've gotten when I've tried to talk about this stuff in the past is part of the cycle. It hurts. A lot.
Confession: the trigger event was silly. It was an RT about Fight Club and how men who like it "too much" are untrustworthy. But it triggered some real feelings about my identity... and what sort of snap-judgements I'd be subjected to if I ever abandoned it.