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it's... really hard when some of our close friends have a falling out over something that happened years ago and that the ones who did the thing hadn't realized was even a problem.
i want to try to set things right. i don't know how, or if it's even possible
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you ever have one of those days where you want to curl up and just not be awake, hope that the morning turns out to have just been a nightmare or something?
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i just. want to make things right.
i hadn't realized how deep of a problem this was and has been for years, though we really should have seen it
i want to fix things, and i don't know how.
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@Felthry Oh jeez. I'm sorry. Yes, that's an awful place to be.
My experience is that if people have a fight it is over something they care about. You can't change that except by listening as they need and maybe guiding them to ask what they want and whether they're getting it.
You can offer to pass along information, if either party wants.
These are limited tools, sorry to say. Sometimes though they and time will do the job, though.
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@Austin_Dern unfortunately in this case it seems to have been a mistake one person made years ago and never realized was a mistake
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@Felthry Unfortunately, yeah, that's extremely hard. Being hurt by someone who didn't even know they were doing it can be worse than being hurt deliberately. At least if you're hit for a reason you can respect that.
If they can decide the other party sincerely regrets it and wants amends, reconciliation might be easy, but there's little you can do there. I'm sorry.
Good luck to you and you all.