mh-
just feeling really terrible right now and don't know what to do to feel not-terrible
even if we can't fix the thing that made us feel terrible in the first place i want to figure out how to be able to do things today other than lay in bed
-F
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this is a kind of emotional pain we've only felt maybe twice before and both previous times were traumatic
iiii don't know what to do here
what can we do
how do we fix things
how did we not realize things needed fixing before
why can't we do things right
-F
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we were the admins, we should have done something to prevent this happening
we should have seen the signs of this and done something to stop it
we never should have tried to run a chatroom
-F
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we aren'te ven the ones who were directly hurt by this
we shouldn't be feeling this terrible, the ones who were hurt by this need the sympathy, not us
-F
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@plugs please
-f
re: mh- / I think I’m kinda blunt here, just a fair warning. -Mixie
We do know the of emotional pain of needing to fix is so painful it’s soul crushing. But that pain obscures your thoughts—you cannot make good judgments in this mindset. You cannot safely help your friends while in this sort of pain.
We’ve found the best way to deal with the pain is distraction. It’s also to imagine a barrier between us and others to separate our emotions from theirs. And reminding ourselves that it is not the job of a friend to fix, nor would fixing be wanted.
You’re allowed to feel terrible. If we mentioned a situation like this, would you say we shouldn’t be feeling terrible? Or would you have sympathy and compassion for us?
Because I really feel you need to extend that compassion and help you wanna give to others to yourselves. If you do wanna help folks, you’ve gotta help yourself first.
re: mh- / I think I’m kinda blunt here, just a fair warning. -Mixie
Having a glass of water. Or sitting up in bed being sad instead of lying down. But those are things that work for us, so mileage may vary.