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FelthryYou are not responsible or to blame for others relationship problems, it is not your place to fix them. And tbh one thing we’ve leaned is friends do
not want their friends to fix their problems.
We do know the of emotional pain of needing to fix is so painful it’s soul crushing. But that pain obscures your thoughts—you
cannot make good judgments in this mindset. You cannot safely help your friends while in this sort of pain.
We’ve found the best way to deal with the pain is distraction. It’s also to imagine a barrier between us and others to separate our emotions from theirs. And reminding ourselves that it is not the job of a friend to fix, nor would fixing be wanted.
You’re allowed to feel terrible. If we mentioned a situation like this, would you say we shouldn’t be feeling terrible? Or would you have sympathy and compassion for us?
Because I really feel
you need to extend that compassion and help you wanna give to others to yourselves. If you do wanna help folks, you’ve gotta help yourself first.
re: mh-
we aren'te ven the ones who were directly hurt by this
we shouldn't be feeling this terrible, the ones who were hurt by this need the sympathy, not us
-F