PSA for trans folks.
SUPPORT PEOPLE WHO DETRANSITION.
As a member of a community that would prefer this anomaly does not exist, YOU HAVE A MORAL OBLIGATION TO CARE.
Just because it makes TERFs feel validated doesn't erase their humanity. Yes it's extremely rare, but it happens.
Detransitioning sucks. You lose the trans community, and there's not a lot of places to turn. Actually consider the sheer self doubt.
Seriously.If you ever meet someone in this situation: HELP. We need to be better.
PSA for trans folks.
I think a major part of this problem is that it's rare enough to encourage the bystander effect. If someone wants to revert, they're likely going to feel like a "traitor" and they're definitely gonna be treated like one if they're vocal. I beg you to go the extra mile and ASK if they're okay. Like, how would they know you're safe to talk to?
PSA for trans folks.
Anyway, I don't mean to rant. This feels like a situation in which it needed to be said. I honestly think the community just needs to be aware.
Speaking of: please respect their identity. I know that sounds silly, but there seems to be(?) a tendency to assume they're only doing it because they're scared or something. That's not your call, and if you don't consider it "real", you're not helping. I get how this can happen, just be mindful.
I KNOW we can be better.
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uh honestly, like, if you asked me for citations? Only two folks I'd previously known, and a few folks they directed me to, cause I was surprised this was an issue (though it feels obvious in hindsight) and wanted to know more.
im obviously not an expert, here, and i don't want to speak for them. but it's like a tiny voiceless group, so i felt it was worth passing along. If you've lived this and feel this was handled poorly, please DM me and I'll delete or fix.
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@heatherhorns My view on detransitioners is this; They have my full support, until they start getting into bed with TERFs and transphobes.
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@heatherhorns Yeah
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@heatherhorns @FreyaManibrandr The thing is, the reason they always turn into TERFs is because that's the only community available to them. They go searching for "I detransitioned what should I do?" and the only hits are far right TERF death cults like /r/detrans. Because other communities shun them.
It's our duty to be better than that. All it takes to change someone's life completely is to give them a place to go when they're suffering. If it's us who gives them that place, we can help them. But if a predatory group lures them in instead, and feeds them self-loathing defeatist propaganda about how their life is over and more lives will end next unless the Trans™ are stopped... we've seen what happens, and nobody is happy, least of all them.
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@V @heatherhorns Definitely agree. We should be better than that.
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@FreyaManibrandr i suppose thats true of anyone, though